When you know better, do better

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”
Maya Angelou

Lately I’ve been seeing with more clarity some errors I’ve made in parenting. I’m not being hard on myself. I’m just ready to do things differently. I know I did the best I could at the time but now I know better so I can do better.

Sometimes when we see people we love hurting, we just want to give them a proverbial lollipop. Here’s a lollie. It’ll make you feel all better. But lollipops can rot your teeth when you eat too many and aren’t diligent about brushing your teeth.

So for me, no more doling out candy like they are rays of sunshine. It feels good to pass out candy but being a good mom isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes being a good mom is more like putting snow chains on your tires before you ascend that hill when it already started snowing and you’re drenched in your sweatshirt and stretch pants.