A few weeks ago, I had an acquaintance from my Toastmasters group tell me she noticed I was trying to hide dark spots on my face with make-up.
Yep. That’s what she said.
I too was stunned and didn’t really know how to respond.
First of all, she’s right. I am trying to cover up some dark spots on my face so to be approached about something I’m trying to conceal by basically a stranger felt… Bizarre and Invasive.
She said she wanted to help me. I told her that I got the dark spots after doing an IPL treatment 5 years ago and have treated them in numerous ways, seeing various doctors to no avail.
To this she asked, “Have you tried Vitamin C?”
Are you serious? I wondered. I just told you I have seen numerous doctors and tried various treatments. Yes, I’ve tried Vitamin C.
And then she wanted to know how I was eating and if I exercised.
I am new to this Toastmasters group so it was with difficulty that I tried to navigate this conversation – I was trying not to be easily offended at the same time really feeling…. Offended.
I am sensitive about the dark spots I have on my face. A few months ago, my mom said to me, I’ve been thinking about your face and what we can do…
Hmmmm. Thank you.
So, why is this topic coming up?
When I thought about it, I thought it might be because I am hiding the spots and the spots represent flaws. And what if people see my flaws? Then what?
Exactly. Then what?
So today, I consciously decided not to wear any foundation.
Was I comfortable? Not when I looked in the mirror.
I think I’m making a point to tell myself that having flaws is ok. This may take some more convincing.
As a final note, I’m grateful for the awareness this conversation brought up but to be clear, this gal is not gonna be my bestie.